Feedback Sandwich

It’s normal for us to want to tell someone when we feel they are doing something wrong or annoying us in some way. The tough part is communicating that in a way that does not make them become defensive. No one wants to be told that they aren’t doing enough, are doing something wrong, or are acting in a way that irritates another person. 

So how do we go about this? Enter the Feedback Sandwich.

While some people on the internet aren’t a fan, I am, and I have seen it work wonders in changing communication from negative to positive, especially in couples where giving constructive or negative feedback is done in an unhealthy way. Even when the person in the relationship starts with a positive comment and the other partner knows negative feedback is coming, it is still nice for the other partner to know that the effort was put in for something nice to be said first. 

One of the key things about communication is considering the other person’s feelings and how what you say will be perceived. This is a nice way of doing that.